What a scary and exciting time these past few months have been!
Let me introduce myself. I am Dr Michelle Falvey DC and for the past 6 years I have been traveling all over California working with some of the most amazing humans and animals on the Hunter Jumper horse show circuit in Southern California….and I have loved (almost) ever minute of it! It was challenging to say the least. And gave me opportunities that I never imagined would come my way. But something was missing. I guess I should start there…..
While working on my Doctorate of Chiropractic my husband and I had a secret. We were trying to have a baby. I always knew my husband would be an amazing father. I regularly questioned my level of ability/sanity in becoming a mom…but everyone assured me I would pass. I had worked with kids my whole life. From volunteering in the church nursery and elementary school kids to babysitting large families…. I was even a camp counselor for years. It fit. Kids were my thing…..but I also ride horses.
So I joined groups, took extra courses, and earned many certificates to open my pediatric practice/ equine practice. I never imagined I couldn’t have it all, but there were a few road blocks.
We tried so many paths to find our small human….
I was regularly adjusted, after all I was in school to become a Chiropractor. I had seen so many woman struggle for years with infertility become pregnant after starting Chiropractic Care. So when we continued to see no results we added to our plan. Acupuncture was the next holistic approach I knew worked well. I had read so many articles and research papers on acupuncture and fertility I knew it would help us. And it did, but not in the way we hoped. We changed our diets, took yoga, tried everything to reduce stress….and nothing.
I began to blame my husband, there was NO WAY it was MY fault. And then his tests came back perfect. How dare he be perfect and fertile and ugh.
Then reality hit, it was me. Why was it me? How? I was doing everything right!!!
After going through massive depression I picked myself up and called my OBGYN….again…… to find out what was wrong with ME this time. Test after test…nothing. Hormones were perfect! (thanks acupuncture). Cycle was textbook (way to go chiropractic). Blood panel pristine. Clearly we were missing something. I became a student of fertility. I was determined to find my problem and fix it. I was adamant that I did not want to do IVF, even though it was becoming clear that it might be our only option. I have always over reacted to hormones, birth control is my arch nemesis. So when the final test showed that even though my systems were working, my Fallopian tubes were complete closed off meaning the only option left was IVF.
We cried. I cried. I did not want to put my body through it. I argued with myself…….for…..months.
As I began interviewing IVF doctors my acupuncturist (who is a saint) let me know that a doctor from New York, that specialized in low hormone IVF, had just moved his practice to town. I was hesitantly relieved. I had interviewed other options and they all sounded the same…..birth control, hormones, collection and so on. So what a relief it was to find that I had options!!!
I had found the office that I had been looking for! They tailored my process to me! They listed when I said I didn’t handle hormones well….and came up with a plan that didn’t include my evil enemy. That plan produced the most amazing gift of my mini me.
She is perfect…..wild, determined, inquisitive, way to smart for her own good….and perfect.
The path to our small human took 8 years.
Unfortunately, there was a large chunk of time where I became jaded……..right around graduation. I did not want to be surrounded by women ecstatic about their pregnancies when I was struggling, frustrated, and started to feel hopeless. I knew I wanted to work with soon to be moms, new moms, and kids. But I also knew I was not in the right mindset.
So I decided to help my other love in life…..horses (and their riders).
But once my mini me arrived, the self defense mode began to melt away. I wish I could say it dropped when I got pregnant, but it didn’t. I had to see her face to let go of my fears and frustrations. And once I did I knew I could return to my love of working with kids.
But of course, like everything in life, it took time. I refreshed all of my additional education, toyed with where and how I wanted the new practice to look and feel. And set my eyes on the “perfect” location. Only to be shot down miserably, being told they wanted a Tiffany’s (good luck with that one by the way). Crushed, I stumbled upon an office building across from the hospital where I gave birth to my daughter. I had been to the offices before, and never even thought that it might be perfect…..until that day. I saw the available sign and it was like a power box blowing up in the back yard. This….this is the place I had been waiting for. Holding out for. It was perfect…..ish.
The past few months have been a trial of my determination, patience, and creative thinking as we transformed a small office, with a completely awkward layout into one of my new favorite places to be.
Soon we plan to accept new patients. I would love to meet you, and help you on your journey.
Life can be crazy! We would love to help you, treat you, and plan WITH you.
To your health!
Dr Michelle Falvey DC